I had a moment today.   I was driving to Office Max in the pouring rain because I needed to print something tonight, and if you know me, procrastination is totally not in my nature.   I realized, this is the kind of moment when I usually lose it.   Things happened out of my control, and it caused me to do something last-minute, that totally threw off my nighty to-do list.    This is when I usually melt down, cry, get really grumpy, or just shut down.

But I didn’t.

Wait a minute…this was the perfect chance for a full-blown huffy puffy mess…..

Then I got to thinking…. I have not really had one of those moments in a while.   I mean it’s not like I was happy, or in a good mood LOL.   But I didn’t completely lose it!

So what is different?  Cause goodness; I’m as busy as ever.    I work a full-time day job, I run my business after Gracie goes to bed or whenever I can sneak in an email or two.   I have a list of books I’m dying to read, business lists that need to get done, I go to yoga at least twice a week…. I mean I don’t want to one-up anyone or anything, but there are few people on this planet that can fit more into their day than I do.   So I was sitting here trying to figure out what has changed…..and I really just think it is a few things.

1.  Even with this busy crazy life, I’m super happy and fulfilled.   No matter how bad a day I have or how stressed I get, that part remains constant.

2.  My mindset has changed.   I have stopped trying to be super woman.   I used to feel like I failed every day I didn’t accomplish the world.   I read somewhere recently  (I can’t remember where)  but if you have big dreams or big goals and hardly any time…. get one thing done a day that will help you reach that goal.  ONE THING.   That stuck with me.   So today I answered emails and I blogged.   It’s not much, nor is it my huge to-do list.   But it can be enough.    See when I shut down or give up,  I wouldn’t have the same connection to my goal as I will now.   Tomorrow I wake up post my blog, and answer more emails and pick up where I left off tonight.   It keeps things moving AND that connection to my goal.   One thing… that makes it so much more attainable.

3.  I have stopped focusing on all the things I didn’t do or can’t do.   Seriously, I used to obsess over all the work I didn’t get done.  I would get crazy business anxiety until I could get to work.   I started making lists (yes I know I’m so late to the game on that one)  and it really helps me prioritize and get things done. WRITING IT DOWN DOES HELP!   Now before bed, I know exactly what I DID accomplish.

4.  This one is really crazy.   Just recently, like super recently.  I have actually asked my husband for help.  Yes, if you know me at all, you probably just lost your breath.   I never ask for help!  But yep, I did it!   And of course he helped with no complaint because I’m married to a saint.  But for me that was a big step.

So while I don’t know exactly the reason why I didn’t melt down today, I really think it has a lot to do with some of these small yet huge changes I have made.  Most of them just to my way of thinking.   Sometimes a good cry will do the trick…. I’m not hating on a good cry!  But today I had almost no emotion, I just did what had to be done, and big deal, my office time was pushed back an hour or so. The world didn’t end.   YAY ME!!!!

Photo Credit:  Bethanne Arthur Photography